Connecting is a skill. Accessing the Connected State is foundational in generating truly ecstatic experiences - for yourself and others. Humans are social creatures - we connect naturally. All you really need to do is learn to let go so that you're available for the connection right in front of you. Once you learn to do this, your senses open up to whoever you're with and you'll notice signals from your lover that most everyone else has missed. See Episode #17 - The Kelly Revelation for more on the Connected State. Less