This is the third talk offered by Thay in the third week of the Summer Opening Retreat, given in the Upper Hamlet of Plum Village on Friday, July 27th, 2011. Thay teaches four mantras that can help us resolve difficult situations with our loved ones: 1) I am here for you; 2) I know you are there, and I am happy; 3) I know you suffer, and I want you to know that I am here for you; 4) I suffer, please help. Thay also teaches the story of Mr. Truong and Nam Xuong, who lose their love, and her life, due to actions based on a wrong perception. "In our society we have a fear of suffering, but to understand the suffering in ourselves and in the other person is very important. When we are able to understand the suffering inside, we suffer less. And we can see more easily the suffering in the other person; we can understand them." To go deeper into how we nourish the seeds of anger inside, Thay explains the teaching on the Four Nutriments: 1) edible food, 2) sense impressions, 3) volition, 4) consciousness. Thay speaks in French on the left stereo channel, Sister Pine translates into English on the right. Less