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Welcome to Honor Your Truth The Mobile Unit “Is It True?” Series Episode Seventeen “You can’t please everybody all the time” My grandmother had a gold curtain that covered the back door window. I loved that curtain. It wasn’t shiny, but that gold carpet color…. the wave of the 70’s. Trinkets and charms hung by safety pin hangers like candy in a store, or dolls in a catalogue. We could look, but not touch, so I stood there, and waited. My grandma would take something down, tell us what it was and where it was from, and then pin it back up. I dreamed how I’d have one some day, a curtain like this, with it’s off limit treasures. It was certainly a highlight of my summer vacation. I was transfixed by the new stuff and glued to the old stuff. A select few might understand and those who don’t …..Well, they don’t know the curtain. She would always sit at the breakfast nook, drinking coffee and making lists, no doubt. I would often wake up early and sit across the table from her. She slapped her knee when she laughed and both knees when something was really funny. One year, she told me a story. Apparently, I had gone into the kitchen for chocolate chip cookies. She made the most awesome chocolate chip cookies, believe me. I went to the refrigerator to get a glass of milk. I spilled the entire container, my glass and all. It was everywhere. She seemed to appear out of nowhere. Panic stricken and scared, I turned to her and said, “Now, you won’t like me” and I cried inconsolably. She was still concerned about this and for the life of her couldn’t figure out why I would feel this way. As early as second grade, my teacher said in a report card, “Debbie does very well in her studies. She tries very hard. She does not take criticism well. She cries a lot and thinks no one likes her” I tell you this story to make a point. Sometimes the idea that no one likes us is present long before we can even take note of it. It is so engrained by adulthood that it is often unconscious. We may end up operating fully out of desperation, rather than inspiration…..just trying to find a way to feel ok. If people like us, we can accept ourselves. This never works. It becomes very important to find a way to make as many people like us as possible. If someone doesn’t, it is very painful and scary. The well is never full, the cup is always dry, and the loneliness never stops. The true solution lies with in being who we are, accepting ourselves…in showing up and telling the truth. Some people will like us, some people won’t, and most people won’t care. Honor Your Truth! Debra Hadraba Honor Your Truth Inspiration+Action

• Release Date

  Apr 5, 2009

• Runtime

  01:57